Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Stereotypes about being a chink

People always have false assumptions about me based on my name or how I look like.. But heck im still Filipino and that people should someday learn not to assume or make "labels" based on how people look like or how their name sounds like.. I have to be honest though there are times where I judge people with how they dress but most of the time my assumptions of people based on how they dress are 80% true.. So I guess I have the street smarts or I am just good at guessing or maybe life is just unfair haha...

Anyways let me share to you the top 10 sometimes bad/good stereotypes I live with because I am a chink..

10. We only use chopsticks at home... - This is so not true! Just because I am a chink doesn't mean that we only use chopsticks at home, I wonder what gave them that idea!?! Its crazy we use the spoon and fork just like everyone else..

9. We are really stingy with money.. (Kuripot Alert!)
- Anyone can be stingy! This is one of the most common stereotype I heard from everyone which they say applies to all "east asians"... One time my friends were shocked when I treated them for lunch and said that they never expected me to be the type to treat people because I am a chink and they say all chinks are "stingy, money hungry individuals"...

8. We like to eat babies! - Where the eff did they get that information that chinks eat fetuses?!? Its crazy every single year or every new person I meet always ask me if I have tried eating a baby.. Its crazy! Why the eff would I want to eat a baby?!? Every friggin year or every new person I meet always ends up asking me this question.. My gahd! What has the internet taught you guys!

7. We are expected to know how to speak our mother tongue perfectly - I belong to a new generation of chinks who could barely speak or let alone even read perfectly the language used by our forefathers so please don't ask me how to speak a line of Chinese, Japanese, Korean or even Mongolian! I grew up in the Philippines like most of my friends and so it's probably expected that I wouldn't know how to perfectly speak my original mother tongue.


6. We are not circumcised -  I do not know if this is a good thing or bad thing but I doubt this applies to all chinks. I know of many chinks who are or are not cut.  Does it even matter? Well another fun fact for you guys one of us (either Me or Cheng) isn't cut. I mean what is it about getting cut? Well one of us got cut due to constant peer pressure but still this doesn't make sense just because we are chinky doesn't mean we are uncut. Though there really is nothing wrong with being cut/uncut.

5. We are not very blessed in the "bird" department -  What is their basis on this? In comparison to my friends at the gym and my other chink friends. I don't think we are not well endowed in the bird department. I mean Ive seen a lot of birds at the gym and they come in all shapes, sizes and cuts. I hate getting teased about this though it doesn't feel very comfortable.

4. We have too close family ties and they always provide for their children - again this doesn't apply to all chinks.. Most chinks I know have dysfunctional families and even my family has their fair share of family related issues... This maybe true to some but not all... Some of my chink friends are forced to work their way to get what they want and need. Which is probably why some of them end up resorting to getting things done under the table and this probably a good thing so that we will all have a lesson to learn that getting money is never easy and that we would have to work hard for what we want and need. I am pretty sure there are some people that need to know this instead of resorting to stealing and killing.

3. Most of us are hopeless romantics -  because all we think about is how to make money they say we are so desperate to get lovers and most of us only get our partners through arranged marriages.. So not true! What century do we live in? Oh my oh my! They say that we usually love through money.. Whoever said true love can be bought and not found?

2. We like to fck our helpers and workers - so now they say that we are horny maniacs.. Well again this doesn't apply to all.. But if they think we are horny individuals that can last long in bed then thats a good thing but if they think we are nymphomaniacs then nevermind.. haha

1. Most of us can't speak english - wow.. even in the Philippines they think we can't speak english.. seriously.. like really! again this doesn't apply to all :)

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I hope you have enjoyed this short post haha :) Again I really like getting mail from you guys and reading them! So what are you guys waiting for? Send them my way at simonyee@post.com :) :)

Sunday, January 19, 2014

start of a long distance.

Right now I am laying next to Cheng in our hotel room, writing this post. Still feeling a bit buzzed from all that liquor digested in my system in celebration of our 3 Night Sinulog Party. I suddenly feel so old after hearing the screams of joy at all the other younger people occupying the rooms next to ours and seeing underage teenagers drinking their lives away down below from the view of our balcony. Maybe being 20-something is already a sign to put myself back together and live like an adult and give up the life of being a weekend warrior. Or maybe times have changed and that the younger generations seek to live the life of a weekend warrior. Probably its time to leave the life of a weekend warrior....

"What if I get assigned to work outside the country for a few months, would you want me to quit my job or should I go?" he asked me last Friday night while drinking with a few of our friends

"What do you mean?" I said, hoping that this was all just a joke, giving me time to think of an answer..

"I am getting promoted and that I would have to get my training in Singapore for 3-4months.. I want to take this opportunity but would you let me?"

Feeling a bit uneasy I just said "Its your life go for it!"

So a week from now Cheng would be leaving home for Singapore for the next 4 months and would be coming back here in the Philippines for 5 days every month. I still do not know what to expect from all this.. Would things be different? Has god done this for a purpose? Can we handle the long distance? I am scared. What we can do right now is enjoy the good vibes and drink away our worries and troubles since its Sinulog! The biggest party of the year here in this province that I stay in...

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Coffee and Sex

The coffee shop full of wonder..

While studying inside this barely patronized coffee shop a few days ago. I overheard the phrase "How you like your coffee is how you feel about sex." which got me thinking... The only drink I get in coffee shops the past few months since I entered the challenging level of college is an "Iced Americano" which is bitter and strong tasting and since its iced its cold... So with that phrase being said does this mean that I feel that sex is bitter, cold and strong? This is probably half true..

Its probably either because its too much or that everything has already become routine. Sex lately has been a bit more like a chore and that it is also quite detrimental at times when I need to have those sleepless nights of studying...

"sex is not as exciting as it was before noh? Maybe your slowly turning vegetarian.. You dont seem to be enjoying it much" Cheng said to me in bed a few nights ago..

"Im sorry, Im just so tired and that my head hurts.." while rubbing his thigh

He then rolled closer to me and said "Or is it because of me? Ill take two showers if you want before we get down and dirty"

"Its not that.. Im really just tired ok.. "

He started to unzip my pants and held my cock with his hands "This will probably help you then.."

he started stroking me to sleep..

I woke up the next day unprepared for the wave of exams that I had to take for that day.. Love is crazy at times..

Friday, January 10, 2014

When is your turn?

Last night's family dinner was awkward... I mean really awkward because my cousin brought his girlfriend of 2 years to dinner last night and proposed in front our whole family(Cousins side and my side).

My aunt sitting across me in the round table then asked "Cheng, when is your turn?" 
I simply just smiled and said "Soon.. Ayi, soon.."
My aunt then said "You know shobe(little sister) and your friend Simon would make a good match!"
"Yeah Dage! Simon is a cute guy and I think you should set us up on a date!" my little cousin replied.
I was on the verge of blurting out the truth but instead I said "Oh he is already seeing "someone".."
Little do they know that "someone" is me. That someone who gives him all the love in the world.. They will eventually find out the truth someday.. ;)


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BTW I am the reason why Simon has been failing the past few exams because of making him release what needs to be released causing him to sleep early at night and not study at all. I am also the reason why Simon has not been posting for the past few days in this blog. Right now he is working double time to make up for his grades and hopefully gets them back up to a safer level :). 


Sunday, January 5, 2014

10 Facts (Us, Him & Him)

Enough with all the lovey mushy wushy posts.. Save that for February!! What would make this post unique though is that this would be the first collab post with Cheng :) I finally got him to blog with me and maybe(and I hope!) he joins me in the never ending journey of this blog :)

A few days ago this blog has finally reached its 2nd Month of existence and boy did we get to meet a lot of people :) So I think now would be the best time to share some facts about us(Not too much to reveal our identities ofcourse!) that way we can look back at this post and see how much we changed over the years.

                                            The backview of where we like to just sit and talk :)



10 Facts about us!
  1. 20's-Twenties (We have the same age and in our 20's. Cheng's younger by a month though)
  2. We really love Dim Sum! (We crave for some steamy goodness almost every month!)
  3. We are in the closet (As if you guys didn't already know that :) )
  4. We are chinky men (Cheng being 75% and Simon 50% :) Though our roots are different!)
  5. We both play badminton (Only recently did we realize that we used to see each other in tournaments) 
  6. Water > Soda (We would rather drink water over any other carbonated drink)
  7. Non-Professional  Drivers! (We have been driving since our 1st year of College)
  8. Intoxicated-superstars (When intoxicated we gain the confidence of an artista and go crazy!)
  9. Hmmm (In person we aren't the noisy types and tend to only become noisy when intoxicated)
  10. Body of Tin (We both are really bad dancers! Funny to look at really!)
10 Facts About Cheng by Simon :)
  1. He is real good with numbers! Because he wants to work in a bank?... 
  2. He wants his coffee creamy - You know what they say about men who like it creamy ;)
  3. Fruits & Vegetables over Meat - He prefers to eat food with more vegetables & fruit over meat.
  4. He isn't a lazy butt! - He works hard and even too hard at times! ;) which is a good thing!
  5. He likes watching TV Series - All night he just watches this.. He could finish a whole season in just a few days!
  6. Distant pet lover - He just has no affection for dogs or even fishes!
  7. Likes to steal lighters from friends - I found a box full of lighters which apparently are the lighters that go missing whenever we have a night out.. 
  8. Is very bad with directions! - He tends to get lost a lot in the small city we live in and tends to have a hard time understanding directions given on an instant noodle pack
  9. Doesn't use soap - I get kinda irked by this but he likes to go all natural and not use soap.. 
  10. Is a horny bunny! - Pretty self-explanatory :)

10 Facts About Simon by Cheng 
  1. My personal Einstein - As much as he keeps denying but he actually is super smart! He only reads the material once and for some reason can retain every bit of information he reads.
  2. Certified Meat Lover :) -  He likes to eat all kinds of meat ;) wink wink esp juicy hard ones!
  3. Hates it when I smoke - I promise I will try not to smoke as much na :)
  4. Scaredy Cat! - I remember when I made you cry because I forced you to watch The Ring.
  5. Orders only Iced Americano in coffee shops - Plus never puts sugar or cream, he likes it strong and dark!
  6. Drunk as fck - One fact I sort of wish changes is how he likes drinking even on a school day..
  7. Mama's boy! - He probably is the only guy I know who is super close to his mom and always makes it a point to have a breakfast out with her once a week. He even hugs his mom infront of me which is kind of cute and yet at the same time awkward. (Probably where he gets his soft side)
  8. He doesn't eat fish unless they are boneless - Thats because he always gets boned by the fish (Am I too naughty sounding?) 
  9. He prefers potatoes or bread over rice - He likes most of his food to go with bread or fries rather than rice...
  10. Loves spicy food! - He could eat a whole bowl of fried chilli or it takes a lot of chilli to make him feel the spice.  Im sure he likes my special spicy chilli I give him :) :) :) hahah

 So I hope you guys learn a little more something about us and probably get to love/hate us more :) haha

Friday, January 3, 2014

18

So a few days ago our relationship/partnership/close-friendship has reached its 18th month :) Though compared to other couples, I must admit that we are kind of slow paced since we both are "relationship-virgins". Even if we never really courted each other; what marked the start of counting the days of our relationship was the day we had our first real leg popping kiss at the baywalk.


  
The baywalk where we cultivated what we have.

Its amazing how we quickly became so close. Could it be by faith that we met that night? What if you never helped me that night? What if your phone never found its way in my bag? Until now I still cannot believe how we came to know each other. I mean it's so cliche! How many other people have met their future partner at the bar or because their phone magically got in someones bag? It was probably by faith that made our paths cross.


Who could have known that we were meant to be for each other? Funny how time flies so fast when we were just sitting at the baywalk talking about how our lives would go, only to realize that we have been sitting on that bench for 5 hours when the sun bids us farewell. Was it love at first sight? Probably only god knows why we met that night and why we both ended up being closeted chinky lovers who grew up in this tropical country.


A few days ago on our 18th month celebration when you suddenly just held my hand inside the ferris wheel and said "Even if they try to break us apart, promise me you will never give up on us..". If that means to give up everything for the sake of keeping our love alive then I promise to not give up on us.. There is just something special when your hands touch mines. It makes me feel loved and secure.

Just remember our plan! A year from now after I graduate we would reveal to everyone our relationship and finally come out of the closet. We will accept whatever challenges our family throws at us.. Even at the expense of getting disowned as long as we have each other and that we are both ready to face real life. I really just hope that both our families would accept this forbidden love we have. We would probably set a good/bad example of what true love is to our younger generation families. Again all I really hope for is acceptance.. 

The last quarter of 2015 would be the year where we would gamble our faith all for the sake of love. Hopefully none of us would give up on each other and that by then we will be ready to face what we have to face. Remember the day I admitted to you I liked you when we played 21 questions on our first ever movie together? "Being this way is not bad" you said as you hugged me that night. Cheng.. I love you.. I think my life would suck without you.. You are the one that make my darkest days bright. You always know how to cheer me up when im sad. Cheng, I love you so much and I know I have been such a bad boy at times when I go drinking with my friends and give you the burden of picking me up at the bar even if you told me not to go drinking. This 2014 I will try to be a better boyfriend and try to always listen to you.. Even when I think you are wrong, you always end being right. Its funny noh? But please stop smoking najud this year! I hate it when you smoke.. I love you so much that I dont want those cigarettes to hurt your body and your smoke will also hurt me na.. So lets be good this 2014 ok Cheng? I love you!!

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 Sorry for this mushy wushy entry guys. My mind was all just love love love at the moment. BTW The Lost Boy, thanks for that really thoughtful email you sent me a few days ago :) Because of your letter I sort of came up with this letter to devote my love for my love Cheng ;)

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Milestones of 2013

January 2013
- 1st Sinulog together :). (I took care of him this time, when usually I am the one who always gets wasted on liquor.)
- Swallowed for the first time for our 7th month together.. (Not the bestest experience but it was out of love)
- Sold my old car.
- Failed most of my midterm exams because I didn't study for any of them.

February 2013
- Cheng got us matching watches for our 8th month together. (I cried for the first time over a gift.. Who knew a watch could make me cry?)
- Bought a new car (Which until now I dearly love)
- Stopped going home late at night and lost my social life to get my grades back up.
- Celebrated Chinese New Year with his family. (I had a great time in bed with him ;) He gave me a sexy dance and that I saw him dance for the first time. It was funny because he was trying so hard and that he didnt know how to dance. It was sweet though :) I was touched)

March 2013
- This is one of the most stressful months of the year.. So many sleepless nights and that I spent my weekends sleeping to make up for them. (We had our first fight because of this.. He didn't like the idea of me not having much time for him.  :( huhuhu )
- Super desperate to pass one of my subjects in college that I cheated in the final exams.. (I copied answers off my classmates.. It was teamwork really because almost the whole class was part of this cheating event we all had one source)
- Got into a car accident.. (After our final exams, even if I did not have sleep for 2 days, I still attended the class party.. I was drunk + really sleepy so I fell asleep while driving on the way back home and hit two guys on a motorcycle.. I was scared shitless.. Its a good thing they were both still alive and that one person just broke his leg. I was glad that nobody was seriously hurt.. My car was so strong that it left me unscratched. Since that incident Cheng would never let me drive again when I go drinking and that I cannot drink without him..)

April 2013
- Releasing of grades :) (I was one of the lucky few to survive the course and passed all my subjects ;) But I was not proud to pass a certain subject because I cheated and that now it haunts me because I am having a hard time in class)
- Forced Cheng to quit smoking.. (He wasn't very happy about it but I wanted him to quit smoking with me for our health and that I realized that smoking doesn't benefit us at all and that it was a waste of money and detrimental to our life.)
- Fought with Cheng again :( (We fought because he really didn't like the idea of me getting mad when he smokes and that how I waste his money by throwing away the packs of cigarettes I see in his room or car. Im glad though that in the end he made me win and that he decided to quit smoking. Im fine with him smoking socially like maybe just a stick but only on special occasions but never chain smoke)
- Start of summer classes (Took up the subjects that I lacked because I shifted courses the year before)

May 2013
- Gave up one subject to pass the other :( (Summer class was just too fast paced and that I just couldn't handle it :( I was taking up two of the hardest subjects at the same time.. I was rushing to catch up with my batchmates.. So I realized that I just couldnt handle it so I gave up that one subject and decided to retake it the following semester.)
- Got my grades the week after the finals for the summer term. (Got the top 1 grade for that subject but failed the other..)

June 2013
- Start of regular classes.. (Took up just 3 subjects for this semester because it was the only ones I could take up at  that time :( )
- Our Anniversary ! I took Cheng out for dinner and finally gave in to his request for sticking his up my bum bum.. I was a pure top by nature and he was versatile but I just had to give in.. Again it wasn't the best first experience.. It was painful fcking painful but it later progressed to a pleasurable kind of pain.. wow horny much haha!)

July 2013
- Cheng finally got his first job :) (We celebrated over dinner and that it was the start of me waiting for him to get out of work since i had so much free time in my hands. Imagine just 5 hours of school everyday..)
- Got super duper drunk on his friends birthday (I was kind of ashamed of myself because he checked me in a hotel because I was too drunk to go home and that he just didnt want to leave me alone.. I felt so loved.)

August 2013
- He surprised me! (He took me to the mountains for my birthday.. :) I was amazed of how his close friends were so supportive of us.. They helped Cheng prepare my surprise birthday celebration I was touched and I was happy to know that Cheng has really good friends whom I love dearly as well too)

September 2013
- I felt too clingy! (Because he keeps working. I feel so bad everytime he is so busy.. I finally knew how he felt when he wasn't busy and I was.. I felt soo attached.. I missed him so badly because he was so busy with work and all but eventually I got used to it and agreed to always have dinner together once a week and spend the weekends together)
- His birthday! (Sang for him on our date in the mountains even if I had a really really bad voice. It made him giggle and happy. He was soo touched that he cried. I was touched that he liked it)

October
- Final exams (Now we were both super busy.. Him with work and me with school but we always find ways)
- Went on a far away adventure with my friends (We got caught making out by my friend but she said she had always knew the whole time.. Are we that obvious or are we just too close?)
- Started this blog to keep store special memories and that I just wanted to share our random stories. (I also always wanted to make a blog.)
- Got my grades for the semester (Aced the subject I retook :) Again was the highest in my batch. I even beat the third takers and broke the school record. I got the highest grade for those people who ever took that subject under him.. I was super proud)

November
- First ever major fight.. (Cheng cheated on me.. but eventually we became alright.. I gave him a second chance.. we talk things out and all.
- We decided to come out to those we can trust and to those few who ask. (We were starting to prepare to come out to our family.. we plan on coming out to them after I graduate which would hopefully be a year from now :) )
- Made a lot of new friends on the blogosphere :) Thanks to this blog I made a lot of new email buddies :) It makes me and cheng smile to read the mail we get and read together at times.

December
- Home alone surprise ;p (We had my house to ourselves :) We were like mad rabbits making love love and more love.


Happy New Year!!! ;) :) :) I hope for many more posts to come in this blog and that hopefully soon Cheng would decide to post on this blog as well or he can start his own :) :) Again thank you guys for your support ;) I love you guys and I really just cant thank you guys enought for everything ;) I am really glad that there are people out there interested about our story.